Learning to Move With Love, Loss and Memory
Introduction
Grief doesn’t follow a clear path.
It doesn’t work like that.
It is different for everyone.
There is no simple timeline.
No finish line.
No moment where everything suddenly feels completely okay again.
After all, we all experience life differently. We all carry different memories, different relationships, different losses, and different perspectives shaped by what we have been through.
So grief will never look exactly the same for everyone.
And yet, when someone is grieving, they will often hear phrases like:
• “You need to move on.”
• “It is time to let go.”
• “You have to look forward now.”
• “It will get easier in time.”
Most of these words are probably said with good intentions.
But grief is not that simple.
Because grief stays with you.
In time, it may feel less raw. It may become quieter. It may not hurt in the same sharp, constant way it once did.
But it does not simply disappear.
Having said that, there are things we can do which may help ease some of the hurt we feel.
Not remove it.
Not erase it.
Not pretend it never happened.
But help us carry it a little more gently.
And that is what this article hopes to share with you now.
Quick Summary
Grief hurts.
It can hurt more than words can ever properly explain.
Losing someone you loved with all your heart, someone you shared memories, moments, routines, conversations, laughter, silence, and life with, hurts deeply — because you know you will never be able to experience those things with them in the same way again.
That is part of what makes grief so painful.
It is not just losing a person.
It is losing the future you thought you still had with them.
But moving forward is not about moving past the pain.
It is about slowly learning how to accept it, understand it, and live alongside it.
Loss changes all of us.
It changed me.
Much more than I ever thought it would.
And there may be times when grief hurts so much that you wish you were not here.
Times when you feel so damaged, so empty, or so broken that you wonder if you are beyond repair.
But that feeling of fear, hopelessness, or darkness is only part of the truth.
Perhaps the loudest part.
But still only part.
Because the people we have loved and lost still live on.
Not in the same way.
Not in the way we wish they could.
But they still live on in our thoughts, in our memories, in our hearts, and in the way they changed us.
And those things can never be taken away.
Contents
1. What Grief Really Is
2. Why “Moving On” Can Feel So Wrong
3. The Difference Between Moving On and Moving Forward
4. How Grief Changes Over Time
5. Ways to Carry Grief More Gently
6. Small Practices That May Help
7. Give Yourself Space on Difficult Dates
8. Notice moments of peace without guilt
9. Frequently Asked Questions
10. Helpful Links and Organisations
11. Final Thoughts
1. What Grief Really Is
Grief is not just sadness.
It is much more complicated than that.
It is the emotional, mental, physical and spiritual response to losing someone or something that mattered deeply to you.
And that loss can take many forms.
– It might be the death of someone you loved.
– It might be the end of a relationship.
– It might be the loss of a friendship.
– It might be the loss of your health, your old life, your sense of safety, or a future you thought was going to happen.
Sometimes grief is obvious.
Other times, it is quieter.
But it can still hurt deeply.
– Grief can feel like sadness.
– It can feel like anger.
– It can feel like guilt.
– It can feel like confusion.
– It can feel like numbness.
– It can feel like exhaustion.
– It can feel like nothing at all.
And that last one can be one of the hardest feelings to understand.
Because sometimes people expect grief to look like crying all the time.
But sometimes grief looks like silence.
Sometimes it looks like staring into space.
Sometimes it looks like carrying on because you have no other choice.
Sometimes it looks like laughing one minute and breaking down the next.
Grief can affect your body too.
– You may feel tired.
– You may sleep too much or hardly sleep at all.
– You may lose your appetite.
– You may eat more than usual.
– You may struggle to concentrate.
– You may feel heavy, tense, restless, or physically drained.
This is because grief is not just something that happens in your thoughts.
It can move through your whole entire body.
And if you are grieving, it is important to understand this:
• You are not weak.
• You are not failing.
• You are not doing it wrong.
• You are responding to something painful. Something real. Something that mattered.
2. Why “Moving On” Can Feel So Wrong
I really struggle with this phrase.
I really, really do not like it.
“Moving on” is passed around so often, usually with so many expectations attached to it — by society, by family, by friends, and sometimes even by people who genuinely mean well.
But the truth is, it can feel incredibly difficult.
Because “moving on” can sound as though the past no longer matters.
As though the person you lost, the life you shared, the love you felt, and the memories you carry should somehow be placed behind you.
But how can you simply move on from something that, at one point, was your whole world?
That is why I think we need to change the way we see it.
Maybe grief is not really about “moving on” at all.
Maybe it is about learning to “move with”.
Moving with the love.
Moving with the memories.
Moving with the pain.
Moving with the part of your life that changed you forever.
It is about accepting that the past happened, and that we cannot change it, no matter how much we wish we could.
It is about accepting the hurt and the pain, and facing it gently, rather than pretending it is not there.
It is about remembering and holding on to everything that was shared, loved, and dear to you.
But it is also about slowly finding a way to live a life that can still hold meaning, peace, and even happiness again.
Not because you have forgotten.
Not because you have left them behind.
But because you are learning how to carry the love forward with you.
3. Moving Forward Does Not Mean Leaving Them Behind
One of the hardest parts of grief is the fear that life continuing somehow means love is fading.
It can feel wrong to smile.
Wrong to laugh.
Wrong to have a good day.
Wrong to make plans for the future when someone you loved is no longer here to share it with you.
And that can bring so much guilt.
You might find yourself thinking:
“Should I be feeling better?”
“Does this mean I am forgetting them?”
“Does this mean I am leaving them behind?”
“Does this mean they matter less now?”
But no.
It does not mean any of those things.
Having a moment of peace does not mean your grief has disappeared.
Laughing does not mean you loved them any less.
Living does not mean you have stopped missing them.
It simply means you are human.
It means that, even with all the pain you are carrying, there is still a part of you trying to breathe, survive, and slowly find your way through.
Moving forward is not about shutting a door on the past.
It is not about pretending the loss did not happen.
It is not about replacing someone, forgetting them, or forcing yourself to be okay before you are ready.
It is much gentler than that.
Moving forward means learning how to carry love and loss at the same time.
It means taking small steps back into life, while still keeping what mattered close to your heart.
It means allowing yourself to remember them, miss them, talk about them, cry for them, and still have moments where life feels soft again.
Because grief does not mean your life has to become only pain.
And healing does not mean the love is gone.
Sometimes, healing simply means learning how to live with the love in a different way.
4. How Grief Can Change Over Time
Grief can be strange.
Some days it feels heavy and impossible.
Other days it sits quietly in the background.
And then, without warning, something tiny can bring it all back again.
A song.
A photograph.
A smell.
A birthday.
A place you used to go.
A quiet moment when you suddenly remember they are not here in the way you wish they were.
That is one of the hardest things about grief.
It does not always arrive when you expect it to.
Sometimes it comes in the big obvious moments — anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, or special dates you used to share.
But sometimes it appears in the smallest ordinary things.
An empty chair.
A favourite meal.
A message you can no longer send.
A story you wish you could tell them.
A laugh you still expect to hear.
And when that happens, it can feel like you have gone backwards.
But you have not.
You are not failing.
You are not weak.
You are not “back at the beginning”.
You are simply remembering someone who mattered deeply.
Over time, the grief may change.
It may become less sharp.
It may not sit on your chest every moment of every day.
You may find yourself laughing again.
Noticing beauty again.
Feeling small pockets of peace again.
And then, one day, the grief may return suddenly, and it may still hurt more than you expected.
That is okay.
Grief is not a straight line.
It moves in waves.
Some waves are small enough to breathe through.
Some knock you completely off your feet.
Some you see coming.
Some arrive out of nowhere.
But slowly, over time, many people learn how to survive those waves a little differently.
Not because the love has faded.
Not because the loss matters less.
But because they have learned how to carry it with more tenderness.
And sometimes, that is what healing looks like.
Not being free from grief.
But learning how to keep breathing when it comes close again.
5. Ways to Carry Grief More Gently
There is no perfect way to grieve.
There is no right speed.
No correct order.
No simple list of things that will suddenly make it hurt less.
Grief is far too personal for that.
But there may be small things that help you carry it a little more gently.
Not because they fix the pain.
Not because they make everything okay.
But because they remind you that you are still human, still hurting, and still allowed to be cared for too.
One of the first things is to let yourself feel what you feel.
That sounds simple, but it is not always easy.
Sometimes you might feel sad.
Sometimes angry.
Sometimes numb.
Sometimes strangely calm.
Sometimes you may even have moments where you feel almost normal, and then feel guilty for feeling normal.
But grief can hold all of that.
You do not have to explain every feeling.
You do not have to make your grief look neat.
You do not have to be strong every day.
Some days, feeling what you feel is already enough.
Another thing that can help is finding your own way to stay connected.
When someone dies, the relationship changes.
But the love does not simply vanish.
It may live on in photographs.
In memories.
In songs.
In places.
In stories.
In little habits you picked up from them.
In something they taught you.
In a kind thing you do because of them.
That is not being stuck in the past.
That is love continuing in a different form.
You might talk about them.
You might write to them.
You might light a candle.
You might visit somewhere that mattered.
You might keep something of theirs close.
Or you might do none of those things, and remember them quietly in your own heart.
There is no one right way.
Only the way that feels honest to you.
It can also help to give yourself permission to live.
And I know that can be incredibly hard.
Because after loss, life carrying on can feel almost cruel.
People keep shopping.
Laughing.
Making plans.
Talking about ordinary things.
And inside, you may be thinking:
“How can the world just keep going?”
But slowly, in your own time, you are allowed to keep going too.
You are allowed to laugh again.
You are allowed to rest.
You are allowed to enjoy a cup of tea, a walk, a conversation, a film, a quiet morning, or a small moment of peace.
None of that means you have forgotten.
None of that means you loved them any less.
It simply means there is still a place for you in life, even after loss.
And on the hard days, be honest with yourself.
Some days will ask more from you than others.
Some days you may cope.
Some days you may barely get through.
On those days, try not to demand too much from yourself.
If you need quiet, take quiet.
If you need company, reach out.
If you need to cry, cry.
If all you can manage is the bare minimum, then let the bare minimum be enough.
Grief does not always need a big solution.
Sometimes it needs softness.
Sometimes it needs patience.
Sometimes it needs someone to sit beside you and say:
“You do not have to be okay today.”
And perhaps most importantly, try not to compare your grief to anyone else’s.
Some people talk.
Some people go silent.
Some people cry often.
Some people hardly cry at all.
Some people need distraction.
Some people need stillness.
Some people want to be surrounded by others.
Some people need space.
None of this means one person loved more than another.
It only means grief comes out differently in different people.
Your grief does not have to look like anyone else’s to be real.
It only has to be yours.
6. Small Practices That May Help
When grief feels heavy, small things can sometimes help you feel a little more grounded.
They are not designed to fix things.
Or heal everything.
Or suddenly make everything okay.
But they can make this moment, this hour, or this day a little easier.
These are some things I have found personally helpful. Especially recently with my other dad Chris passing away.
You are welcome to try what resonates and leave what doesn’t feel quite right for you. 🤍
I. Do not force your feelings
Try to allow yourself to feel what is there.
If you need to cry, please cry.
If you feel angry, let yourself acknowledge that anger. Shout, scream – do whatever you need to do. It’s okay. 🤗
If you feel numb, that is okay too.
Grief can bring up so many different feelings, and they do not always make sense. Especially when you are standing alone in the middle of everything you are feeling.
You do not have to tidy them up.
You do not have to explain them.
You just have to be willing to open yourself up and let it happen.
And to remember that, sometimes the kindest thing you can do is simply let yourself feel what you feel.
II. Let yourself remember
You could write down a memory when it comes to you. On your phone, a thought journey or even a sticky note or even a spare piece of paper.
It doesn’t have to be perfect.
It doesn’t have to be polished.
It just has to be honest.
Even if it is only a few words.
A moment.
A sentence.
Something they said.
Something they did.
Something you do not want to lose.
You might keep a journal of your thoughts and memories, so you can look back at it from time to time.
Not to trap yourself in the past.
But to keep the memories alive.
To keep the love close.
To remind yourself that what you shared mattered. And that it still does and always will. 🤗💗🤍
III. Find a small sanctuary
Sometimes it can help to find somewhere that gives you even the smallest sense of peace.
You could take a quiet walk.
Sit in your garden.
Watch the rain from a bedroom window.
Sit with a cup of tea.
Stand outside for a few minutes and feel the air on your face.
Not to solve everything.
Not to clear your mind completely.
Just to let the world feel a little bigger than the pain you feel for a while.
IV. Talk to someone you trust
You do not have to explain everything.
You do not have to find the perfect words.
You might just simply say:
“I am finding today hard.”
“I miss them.”
“I do not really know what I need, but I do not want to feel alone.”
Sometimes being honest in a small way is enough.
And there is no shame in needing someone.
Only love.
Only kindness.
Only the very human need to not carry everything by yourself.
V. Create a simple ritual
When my aunt died a long time ago and I moved away, it was not possible for me to visit her headstone and talk with her.
So I created a small memorial altar inside a little box in my home.
Whenever I wanted to remember her, or talk to her in my own way, that space was there.
Your ritual may look completely different.
You could write down your thoughts.
Write poetry.
Light a candle.
Play a song.
Make a cup of tea.
Visit a special place.
Say their name.
Do something kind in their memory.
There is no right way to do this.
Small rituals can give grief somewhere to go.
They can give love a shape, even when the person you love is no longer here in the way you wish they were.
7. Give Yourself Space on Difficult Dates
Some days will naturally feel heavier than others.
• Birthdays.
• Anniversaries.
• Christmas.
• Special places.
• Certain songs.
• Certain seasons.
• Certain days that only you may fully understand.
These moments can bring grief closer.
Sometimes you may see them coming.
Sometimes they may catch you by surprise.
Either way, it can help to plan gently around them.
Not to avoid grief completely.
Not to pretend the day does not matter.
But to give yourself room.
Room to feel.
Room to remember.
Room to cry.
Room to be quiet.
Room to think.
Room to talk.
Room to do whatever feels possible that day.
You do not have to be strong on every difficult date.
You do not have to pretend it is just another day if it is not.
You do not have to explain to everyone why it still hurts.
Some days carry more meaning than others.
Some dates hold memories your heart has not forgotten.
So if a difficult day is coming, try to meet it with gentleness rather than pressure.
Maybe you need company.
Maybe you need space.
Maybe you need to visit somewhere meaningful.
Maybe you need to stay home and do very little.
Maybe you will not know what you need until the day arrives.
That is okay too.
There is no perfect way to get through a painful date.
There is only the kindest way you can manage at the time.
So be gentle with yourself.
Give yourself permission to feel what the day brings.
And remember, needing extra care on a difficult date does not mean you are going backwards.
It simply means love remembers.
8. Notice moments of peace without guilt
This matters a lot.
Because sometimes peace can feel uncomfortable when you are grieving.
So can laughter.
So can rest.
So can having a good day.
But peace is not betrayal.
Rest is not betrayal.
Laughter is not betrayal.
Living is not betrayal.
Loving other people is not betrayal.
You are allowed to have moments where life feels lighter.
Happier.
Softer.
Even while you still carry loss.
Even while you still miss them.
Even while part of your heart still aches.
Those lighter moments do not take anything away from your love.
They do not erase the person you miss.
They do not mean you have forgotten.
They simply remind you that you are still here too.
And I truly believe that the people we love would not want our whole life to become only pain.
They would want some part of their love to keep living in us.
Not as guilt.
Not as pressure.
But as warmth.
As memory.
As something gentle we carry forward.
And through our happiness – part of them will live on too.
9. FAQ About Grief
How long does grief last?
I wish I could give you an answer – but the truth is there really isn’t one.
And I know that can be difficult to hear when all you want to know is when things might start to feel easier.
Grief is different for everyone.
For some people, the deepest pain lasts for months.
For others, it comes and goes on for years.
And sometimes, just when you think you are beginning to cope a little better, it can suddenly feel close again.
I do not think grief always completely leaves us.
I think, over time, we slowly learn how to live alongside it.
The pain may become less sharp.
You may begin to have more good days.
You may laugh without feeling guilty.
You may find small moments where life feels normal again.
That does not mean you have moved on from the person you lost.
It just means you are slowly learning how to carry their absence, as part of your life and future moving forward.
Is it normal for grief to come back suddenly?
Yes.
It can happen when you least expect it.
You may feel okay one moment, then hear a song, see a photograph, walk past a familiar place or remember something small, and suddenly it all comes rushing back.
Sometimes it is the obvious days.
Birthdays.
Anniversaries.
Christmas.
Other times, it is something nobody else would understand.
A smell.
A phrase they used to say.
Something funny you wish you could tell them.
A moment when you instinctively reach for your phone before remembering they are no longer there.
It can feel as though you have gone backwards.
But you have not.
You are not back at the beginning.
You have simply been reminded of someone you loved.
And when love remains, grief can sometimes return with it.
Does feeling better mean I have forgotten them?
No.
It really does not.
Feeling better does not mean they matter less.
It does not mean you are forgetting them.
And it does not mean you are leaving them behind.
I think many people feel guilty the first time they laugh properly again.
Or when they realise they have gone a whole hour, or even a whole day, without thinking about their loss.
But you are allowed to feel okay.
You are allowed to smile.
You are allowed to enjoy something.
You are allowed to keep living.
None of that takes anything away from the love you had.
You can miss someone deeply and still have good moments.
You can carry sadness and happiness at the same time.
What if I feel numb?
Numbness can be part of grief too.
Sometimes you may feel nothing at all.
No tears.
No anger.
No real reaction.
Just emptiness.
This can be confusing, especially if you expected to fall apart.
You may even start questioning whether there is something wrong with you.
There is not.
Sometimes the loss is simply too much to take in all at once.
Your mind and body may be protecting you until you are able to process a little more.
The feelings may come later.
They may come slowly.
Or they may arrive unexpectedly.
There is no right way to react.
And there is no correct amount you are supposed to feel.
What if I feel guilty?
Guilt can be one of the hardest parts of grief.
You may go over conversations again and again.
You may think about what you said.
What you did not say.
Whether you should have called more.
Visited more.
Noticed something sooner.
Done something differently.
You may replay moments that you cannot change.
I think grief can be very cruel like that.
It can make us look back with information and understanding that we did not have at the time.
We judge ourselves now for decisions we made then.
But you were living those moments as they happened.
You did not know everything you know now.
You were human.
You may have made mistakes.
You may wish some things had been different.
But love is not erased by imperfect moments.
And a whole relationship should not be measured by the things you wish you had done differently.
Try to speak to yourself with the same kindness you would give to someone else who was hurting.
What if I feel stuck?
Sometimes grief can leave you feeling as though life is moving forward without you.
Other people seem to carry on.
The world keeps turning.
But inside, you may feel completely frozen.
You may be getting through the day, but not really living it.
You may feel exhausted by things that used to be simple.
You may not know what you need or how to explain what is happening.
If that is where you are, please do not feel you have to cope with everything alone.
You could speak to a friend.
A family member.
Your GP.
A counsellor.
A support group.
Or a bereavement organisation.
You do not need to wait until you are at breaking point.
You do not need to have the right words.
You can simply say:
“I am struggling more than I thought I would.”
Sometimes that is enough to begin.
Asking for support is not weakness.
It is recognising that what you are carrying is heavy.
What if I do not want to talk about it?
That is okay.
Not everyone wants to talk.
And sometimes talking can feel exhausting.
You may not know what to say.
You may not want people asking questions.
You may be frightened that once you start, you will not be able to stop.
Or you may simply need quiet.
Some people process grief by talking.
Others process it by writing, walking, sitting alone, listening to music, looking through photographs or just giving themselves time.
You may need different things on different days.
You do not have to share more than you are ready to share.
You do not have to explain your grief so that other people understand it.
But please try not to shut everyone out completely if you are struggling.
You do not have to tell your whole story.
You could simply say:
“I do not really want to talk about it, but I do not want to be alone either.”
That is enough too.
10. Helpful Links and Organisations
Sometimes grief is too much to carry on your own.
Not because you are weak.
Not because you are doing it wrong.
But because losing someone can hurt and affect us in ways we may not see coming.
And when that happens, it can become hard to think.
Hard to focus.
Hard to move through the day like you normally would.
That is not failure.
It is natural.
It is human.
Even if you are the kind of person who normally just gets on with things, there may still be days when you need a little more support.
You may not need any of these links today.
You may never need them.
But it can still help to know they are there.
These links are there for you if and when you may need them.
Cruse Bereavement Support
Cruse supports people who are grieving after someone has died.
They offer helpful information on their website, local support options, and a helpline if you feel you need to speak to someone who understands bereavement.
Sometimes it is easier to talk to someone outside your normal life.
Someone who is not expecting you to be fine.
Someone who will not judge you for crying.
Or going quiet.
Or feeling angry.
Or feeling numb.
Or still struggling long after other people think you should be “over it.”
Because grief does not work like that.
It does not follow a neat timeline.
It does not disappear just because life carries on around you.
If you feel like you need someone gentle and understanding to talk to, Cruse may be a good place to start.
Website: https://www.cruse.org.uk
Helpline: 0808 808 1677
NHS Grief and Bereavement Support
The NHS has clear, simple information about grief, bereavement, and loss.
This can be a helpful place to start if you are wondering whether what you are feeling is normal, or if you are not sure whether you may need more support.
Because grief can make you feel all sorts of things.
Sad.
Angry.
Guilty.
Empty.
Exhausted.
Confused.
Lost.
Sometimes you might feel nothing at all.
That does not mean you did not care.
It may simply mean your mind and body are trying to protect you from feeling everything at once.
The NHS information can help you understand some of the ways grief can affect people, and when it may be a good idea to reach out for extra help.
Mind
Mind provides mental health information and support, including guidance around grief and bereavement.
This may be useful if your grief is affecting your mood, your sleep, your anxiety, your confidence, or your ability to cope with everyday life.
Because grief is not just something that happens in your heart.
It can affect your whole life.
Your thoughts.
Your body.
Your energy.
Your relationships.
Your sleep.
Your ability to do simple things.
And sometimes you do not realise how much you have been carrying until you feel completely exhausted.
If grief is starting to feel too heavy, or if it is affecting your mental health, Mind may help you understand what is happening and what support might be available.
Website: https://www.mind.org.uk
Infoline: 0300 123 3393
Opening hours: Monday to Friday, 9am to 6pm, except bank holidays
Samaritans
If things feel too much, or you feel like you cannot cope, Samaritans are there to listen.
You do not have to be suicidal to contact them.
You do not have to know exactly what to say.
You do not have to explain everything perfectly.
You do not have to pretend you are okay.
You can simply say:
“I’m struggling.”
That is enough.
Sometimes being heard by another human being can help you get through the next few minutes.
And sometimes the next few minutes are all you need to focus on.
Website: https://www.samaritans.org
Phone: 116 123
Available: 24 hours a day, 7 days a week
Cost: Free to call from the UK and Ireland
If you or someone else is in immediate danger, or you do not feel safe, please call 999 or go to A&E.
Your GP
If grief is really affecting your day-to-day life, your sleep, your health, your safety, or your ability to function, it may be worth speaking to your GP.
I know that can feel like a big step.
Especially if part of you feels like you should just be able to cope.
But asking for help does not mean you have failed.
It means you are trying to look after yourself in the middle of something painful.
Your GP may be able to talk through support options, counselling, referrals, or other help available in your area.
You do not have to wait until everything falls apart before asking for support.
Sometimes asking a little earlier is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself.
You can usually find your GP surgery contact details through their own website or through the NHS website.
Find NHS services:
https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/services-near-you/
11. Final Thoughts
Grief is not something you simply get over.
And I do not think we should expect people to.
Because when someone has mattered deeply, their absence matters deeply too.
The space they leave behind matters.
The memories matter.
The love matters.
The pain matters.
And just because life carries on, it does not mean your heart has to pretend nothing happened.
Moving forward does not mean forgetting them.
It does not mean replacing them.
It does not mean being “back to normal.”
It does not mean closing your heart and walking away from the past.
It means trying to keep living while carrying what mattered with you.
And that can look different on different days.
Some days, moving forward may mean taking a brave step.
Some days, it may mean getting out of bed.
Making a cup of tea.
Opening the curtains.
Answering one message.
Doing the smallest thing you can manage.
Some days, it may mean crying.
Some days, it may mean laughing, and then feeling guilty because you laughed.
Some days, it may mean sitting quietly with a memory because that is all your heart has room for.
And all of that is part of grief.
You do not have to rush.
You do not have to heal on anyone else’s timeline.
You do not have to become the person you were before.
Because loss changes us.
Of course it does.
How could it not?
But being changed does not mean you are broken beyond repair.
It means someone touched your life deeply enough to leave a mark.
And maybe moving forward is not about removing that mark.
Maybe it is about learning how to live with it.
To understand it.
To honour it.
To carry it more gently.
Not every day perfectly.
Not without pain.
But slowly.
One breath at a time.
One small step at a time.
One day at a time.
In your own way.
At your own pace.
Not moving on.
But moving forward.
With the love.
With the memories.
With the pain.
With the part of them that will always stay with you.